I am 26 years old which is a remarkably young age and an incredibly silly time to be telling anyone anything. But you weirdos seem to enjoy reading along and since we’re having such a good time doing life together, I thought I would share my best Fortune Cookie Advice. This article is one of my favorites, and I search for it and reference it constantly. Here is what I have learned about the world and what I might write in the card I’ll mail you on your birthday.
Being funny is the second fastest way to connect with someone. Being sincere is the first.
You won’t land your dream job at 22 after college graduation. It’s not that you don’t deserve it, it’s that you wouldn’t recognize it if you saw it then anyway.
You can do almost anything if you’re confident enough- like wearing shoes that don’t match the rest of your outfit or starting your own business.
If it doesn’t feel right, you won’t enjoy it. If you don’t enjoy it, it won’t feel right.
You have something someone else wants. You want something someone else has. This is the way of things. There’s no getting around it unless you live in a hole, in which case, someone else will be wishing they could live in a hole like you do.
Laughing at yourself is disarming. Laughing at someone else is the most efficient way to get shut out.
It’s okay to be a secretary, an assistant director, a landscape designer, and a grant writer all in 5-years. I can’t tell you where you might go from there, but I can tell you that it’s okay to have gone wherever you have been.
Things you should apologize for: making a tasteless joke, taking the cheap shot, breaking an unwritten rule (even if your relationship can weather it.)
Things you should not apologize for: leaving a job when it’s stopped being useful in your life (challenging, enjoyable, financially rewarding), saying “No”, changing your mind.
Your relationships will track in some interesting ways. If you’re both willing to stop short when headed down the wrong path, be appropriately bashful, and laugh about it later, you two will probably be okay.
Knowing the difference between a crisis and a transition is incredibly freeing. Losing your job, cancelling the contract on a new home, saying goodbye to good friends- these can all be profound disappointments but manageable when your family is safe.
Performing a kindness for another person is the currency of life. Casseroles are universally legal tender.
And lastly . . .